Monday, September 12, 2011

Spend for the Marriage, Not the Wedding

If you are getting married but you are a little bit short on the budget, then be very practical about your wedding and, instead, spend more money investing on your MARRIAGE rather than on a one-day affair such as your wedding.

There are a lot of women who want their wedding days to be as magical as it can be, and they whine and pout to get what they want. They grew up looking at the fairy tale endings of their favorite books, on posh bridal magazines and they have been feeling the social pressures that come with being a bride—having a nice shower, a big ring on your finger, and a grand wedding.

Their fiancĂ©s, on the other hand, simply want to please them and if they don’t work together to do the budgeting and to arrive in certain compromises, then you don’t need early warning devices to tell you that they are only heading towards disaster.

It’s simple really. If you want to get married but you’re short on money right now, you can either postpone the wedding so you can have more time to save for it, or you can push through with it on your desired date but not go all-out in the spending anyway. It’s such a bad idea to end up working doubly hard while you’re still starting as a family just because you wanted those designer table runners on your reception tables. Or specifically wanted a Benz as your bridal car.

I know a once-bride-to-be who wanted her wedding to be very special. She was the only daughter and was the youngest so her family really wanted her once-husband-to-be to shoulder a big part of their wedding. The family even wanted to name it a dowry and asked P100,000 from her once fiancé. What the guy did was to loan a big amount of money so she got the wedding that she wanted. The ending? When she finally got to live with her husband under one roof and shared a life with him, she also shared the burden of paying the loan. So her wedding pictures looked good, alright. But afterwards she looked so haggard from working so hard.

Be smart about this issue; after all, you’re taking a big and bold step towards a whole new life. Remember that the money that you spend in your wedding will also be helpful when you begin setting up your new home where you will start your family. Imagine how many kitchen implements a designer gown could get. Or how many bathroom essentials your expensive chocolate fountains could afford. Be very smart…it’s about time.


One of the smartest decisions that you will make in the course of your wedding planning is hiring a wedding planner or a wedding coordinator. They will hold your stress buffer and they also have the right network for the quality wedding suppliers at any budget. At the end of the day, you will find out that you saved a lot of time, effort and money because you got the right person on your end. 

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